Socializing! Kidney Massages, Duck Tongues, and Another Ancient Town

It’s been a while since the last update. We’re getting into the groove of living in Shanghai, especially as Lila hasn’t been traveling.

Last weekend we were lucky to finally have some social opportunities. Larry and Jean were visiting from the US, and we were able to meet up Friday and Sunday night for dinner. We had a great time with them, and they even helped us reconnect to Deanna (a former colleague) who now lives within walking distance from us. We also had Karl’s driver (Peter) show them around on the weekend – our first trial run. By the time the rest of you get here, this should be a well-oiled machine! We also met up with work colleagues on two other occasions – Saturday night and Sunday brunch. We’re slowly getting answers and tips to all of our expat orientation questions. In addition, it is so nice to start having a social life.

Among the weekend activities, Karl got his first kidney massage designed to remove toxins from your body. Karl decided that it was a little “too personal” for his western comfort zone. On the bright side, he felt less sluggish for the following days.

We spent Saturday exploring Suzhou, about 1.5 hour away. The old town, dating back to 464BC (!!) and famous for its gardens, is surrounded by a moat and canals with a modern city around the corner. We spent time at the “Humble Administrator’s Garden” (which is also translatable as ‘garden of the stupid officials’). Dating back to 1513, it would have been absolutely beautiful if there had been a few less hundreds of thousands of people. The nearby pagoda, topping 122 feet, was built in 1119 and now leans 10 degrees or so. The area was famous for its silk back in Tang Dynasty (600-900AD). The silk factory included some of the old looming machines that were unbelievably complex but still functional. For 15minutes, we watched 2 women operate the machine and still could NOT figure out what/how they were doing because of the complexity. We did gain another important key learning from the day: when a map looks like it is only 3 blocks, it’s really an hour walking away. Everything here is so spread out. We’re definitely getting a good share of walking exercise.

Karl had another business trip, this time to Xiamen on the southern coast of China across from Taiwan. The city has a population of 3M, and is mainly considered a tourist city. Karl’s customer manufactures and builds PCs here for North Asia. During his travel, Karl took Shanghai and Xiamen airlines. Because the government sets the airline prices, the smaller airlines differentiate themselves through service levels. Imagine this: they served beverages 3x, a meal and 2 hot towels during a 1.5 hour flight. The downside: no frequent flier miles with a US airline partner.

The food in China has been wonderful. Yesterday we found out there are > 40k restaurants in Shanghai! We haven’t gotten tired of Chinese food – there’s so much variety. In fact, Karl’s staff is trying to teach him how to identify the varieties of Chinese cuisine. This week was particularly interesting as they forced him to expand his culinary horizons while in Xiamen. He ate duck tongue, chicken feet, and multiple types of mushy unidentifiable sea stuff. Shanghai is known for its dumplings and sweet and sour flavors. There is a lot of oil and carbs in the food, which makes dieting difficult. We’re getting to the gym regularly to keep the weight in-check.

Other mundane daily life type things:
We both have our official Chinese work permits. Our sea shipment from the US should clear customs next week. We’re anxious to personalize our apartment! We are still learning to communicate with our ayi (maid). She now cooks dinners for us, does our laundry (though our whites & blacks are now both grey), irons (though everything still looks wrinkled), and cleans (but doesn’t pick up a vase to see the dust under it). This is actually very common here as standards of cleaning are different. We are still in training mode and hope the new book we bought (Ayi Survival Guide) will help. The drivers have been great. We are learning to have them run errands, grocery shopping and dry cleaning. The most difficult thing, however, is the timing. If you say pick up at 7am, you feel obligated to be there (time to finally invest in a ‘fake’ watch).

We had an English bookstore craving. As we were wandering around we found the very limited magazine section with a government issued catalog on the process for ordering foreign magazines and newspapers. A 1-year subscription to the New York Times costs $2500. Most every other magazine was over $400 / year. I guess we won’t be indulging in any US magazine subscriptions! In plain print, the catalog also states, “We hope our customer don't show the newspapers and periodicals on the public places.” ?!

We also discovered Taikang Lu. Tucked off the main road, it’s a hidden gem of small boutiques, art galleries, and restaurants housed in the old shikumen style buildings. The shikumen are British style terraced housing with elements of Chinese courtyard style house, literally translates as “stone gates” after their fancy archways. At times, up to 80% of population lived in these style houses. We read they cram 120 of these houses per acre (a developers dream!). The area was restored approximately 8 years ago, but hadn’t taken off as a successful shopping area until 2 years ago. Now every Japanese photo tourist has this top of their destination.